If you have a mother you've heard about having a good attitude. In fact, most of us heard so much about it that we got a little grumpy when it came up! As adults, we don't want to be fake, sugar sweet clones that hide the realities of the day just so we can appear put together and successful. There are times when we have to plaster a smile across our face for a meeting, a class, or even a friends birthday party but a good attitude is more what's behind the smile than the smile itself.
When I was little I traveled a lot with my parents as they built a company together. There were many fancy dinners, parties, and greetings where I was expected to be a little Shirley Temple minus the curls. My mother told me many times that if I smiled and "acted" like I was having a good time that I would indeed have a good time. She has science to back her up on this one. Smiling actually releases chemicals that make you happy!
When I started singing in musicals and at events I was faced with a new challenge. You had to show up no matter how you felt, in sickness and in health. My mother told me that if I cared about the people there and focused on them and their struggles my pain would diminish. Science backs up this claim as well. If we focus on our hurt, suffering, and trials they become bigger in our view. If we focus on others they get smaller and physical pain can even let up.
My mother the scientist knew the power of the mind to change things and her lessons have greatly helped me to have a good attitude even when things aren't going my way. You can fake a good attitude and sometimes that's necessary but the authentic good attitude starts in your brain by changing the way you think.
What's the attitude of your inner dialogue?
Are you telling yourself that you can't succeed? That you're not smart, pretty, or talented enough? That nothing ever works out for you? Or are you telling yourself not to give up? Are you reminding yourself that you can keep working to get better and learn even through the worst failure? Are you grumbling in your head about the people around you? Are you thinking of them as asshats instead of assets? Are you looking for ways you can bless them or waiting to be blessed by them?
This is what a good attitude looks like. Not a plastered smile and bugging eyes but a heart and mind that are steadfast. A mind that sets your focus on what is good and true and a heart that looks for the need in others! So kick that inner grinch to the curb and start building a good attitude from the inside out! It will change your life! Go team!
-Kate DeGraide (#1933352)